Valentines day and friday nights.

Hahaha.

One day Steven and i walked into a dollar-store. full of chocolate displays.

i recall telling him "oh god chocolate... I'd die eating that." we walk into the card section where there is a rack full of chips. i say to him "if i cant receive chocolate as a gift, then chips would equally be good." he proceeds to ask me "what flavor, dear?" I say, "i dunno. i like all chips, but i prefer lays BBQ, or ruffles all dressed.. or even hickory sticks."

sure enough, yesterday he shows up at my house with a bag of lays BBQ chips x') best gift ever, given to me by the best man ever.

for him, i gave a box of chocolates (with a puzzle inside), and a love note (within a puzzle).
for his love note, i borrowed the idea from here: Layton wiki
and for his chocolate box with puzzle inside: Professor Layton's puzzles on Tumblr

he solves both of them faster than you can say "she sells sea shells by the seashore". he then opens up his next envelope. easy peasy... when he sees the next puzzle. i look at his face and he is STUMPED.

the puzzle was for him to cut open the card.. preferably once because it can be cut once. twice if needed. and the entire envelope is sealed shut with tape. BAHAHA. didn't see that coming now, didja Steven??

For the rest of the night I cleaned out his closet because it was so. damn. messy. it was kinda like a hoarder's house on that show "buried alive," but small scale. i managed to finish it.

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Tonight we go over how many people we're actually inviting, and WHO we're inviting.. (we've both agreed to a small wedding of close family and friends. about 150 people max. including any potential dates of the guests).

i already have a list of 76 people of who I'm inviting, including 20 of my mother's friends since i don't actually have other family here. so 20 of her closest friends that i know of who we consider as family, and my closest friends.

Steven doesn't have his list composed yet. :|

I'm dreading tonight. mainly because i heard his family is stingy and flaky. and too traditional.


....sooo..... we are inviting people who MIGHT shit talk us down for not being invited, or if we do send the invites they'll shit talk about the venue because they're Asian and all they do is criticize :\ OR might not even give gifts, or might not show up, or if they do show up they might end up bringing their children.
CONFLICTED. BAH!!!


the worst part is them being too traditional. EVERYTHING must be Asian.
"so why are you not having the reception at an Asian place?" because i eat enough Asian food at home. do you really think i want to eat Asian food OUTSIDE OF MY HOUSE? if i wanted to eat Asian food, i can sit at home and eat. ALSO, Chinese banquet halls and their food? i can ORDER that food home and eat it even better. I CAN MAKE IT. can Asian people make a proper risotto? what about cute little hor d'oeuvres? what about REAL pasta? maybe us Canadian Asians can make it, but what about the older folk who can't make a mean butternut squash soup?
also, i don't trust their cleaning of the cutlery. smells too bleachy, and somehow they're always stained with something (don't deny it you guys, you know its true).

and then there's the issue of incorporating red into everything. "OH WHERES THE RED? HOW COME SO MUCH WHITE? YOU WISH DEATH ON SOMEBODY LEH???"
SMH. how am i gonna have an under the sea wedding and have red? it's gonna be like blues, lilacs, whites, creams and pinks and golds... and then a big blotch of red like somebody killed a dolphin. no.
Y'know red in SOME cultures represents blood. not something i wanna be having.
"but it stands for luck." uh pardon me for being ignorant but how the hell does red mean luck?

and i ain't about to do some of those dumb tea ceremonies either. too much bowing, and I'm gonna be hella tired by the end of the ceremony.

Oh HERE'S another problem i have: i absolutely "need" to have red on the envelopes. not black, or white/off-white/cream whites... what the hell am i gonna do for invites? If i don't have red on it, his family is gonna be all like "OH WHY ONLY WHITE? THEY TRYING TO KILL ONE OF US LEH." Legit, someone actually said that when one of his cousins got engaged and was sending invites out. i am fucking terrified for my LIFE.
 i originally wanted to send cute little seashell invites. NOPE. now if i do have red on the seashells, it's gonna look like that shell was used as a murder weapon for bashing someone on the head or giving someone a paper-cut.

and if everything is not perfect for THEM? well they'll shit talk about us for the rest of our marriage.

fuck. but they're telling me to "send invites, so at least you don't lose face." seriously? its about SAVING FACE now? WE are inviting close family members to celebrate a union of two people that THEY'RE putting together alone, and all you can think about is FACE? aren't you even THINKING about the possibility that we might not even have enough money to invite the whole damn family if the LOT of you decide to show up? if the lot of you DO show up, then i can't even invite my own family or friends because its not even in the damn budget. and you want US to send YOU invites just to have you say "no" and waste OUR money and time? HA. THAT'S A LAUGH.

This is gonna be a looong 2 years.